Anger of a grown child who has been a surrogate partner in his childhood
So, is there a lot of anger with these men who are enmeshed with their mothers? The short answer is – yes. Usually these men, because their mothers have demanded, either explicitly or implicitly that “you be there for me”, and “you tune in to me”, they become very nice guys. They become wonderful caretakers. They’re very nice, sweet in their exterior role. But they lack a hard edge to them. They have hard times making decisions. They might have difficulty with sexual performance. This is all related to this experience of feeling dis-empowered by relationship to their mother.