Can my husband’s porn use affect our intimacy in the bedroom

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Can my husband’s porn use affect our intimacy in the bedroom

What are problems with somebody who has been exposed too long term to pornography or, let’s say, sexually addicted, in terms of being able to be intimate with his or her partner in the bedroom of a committed relationship?

One of the things that happens when you flood the brain with high arousing material, like pornography, or very specific behaviors that are compulsive or ritualized like with a prostitute, it makes it very difficult to be interested in your partner because of what is happening in the brain. The brain is getting very stimulated. And while it’s being stimulated sexually, what happens also is that there is a release of chemicals, neurochemicals, that cause the person to feel attached to the person or the image that they are relating to.

So, actually sometimes I hear a guy say “I fell in love with my prostitute”. And what’s happened is that their neurochemistry has caused them to develop an attachment. And once that occurs, when they are in the bedroom, or the living room, or the family room, with their wife or husband, they’re devoid of any interest. The brain is stimulated with somebody else. They are attached to somebody else. And so it makes it very difficult for them to be aroused. So sometimes they will insist on using pornography, or they’ll be lost in fantasy so they are really not present in relationship sometime with the spouse.

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