It means that you are overinvolved with your parent at a cost to your own needs and relationships. It means you have taken on your parent’s problems as your own and fill obligated to fix them before you can have any life of your own. It means you fell excessively responsible for your parents’ happiness and you declare intense loyalty to your parent over most other commitments. You feel no one understands your bind and you are the only one who can help and be there for your parent.
Do you feel guilty too much of the time when dealing with one of your parents?
If so, you may have had an overly involved or enmeshed relationship with your parent that left you feeling excessively responsible to care for them at a cost to your own life and interests.
Below are some of the characteristics and consequences to you if you were enmeshed with your parent.
- I feel like I have to always be there for my parent even when it is not good for me
- After a conversation with my parent, I often feel guilty
- My parent often wants to be closer to me than I want
- I cannot stand up to my parent