I am a MEM of 33 that has found my mother to be so cruel at any thought of my independence I cannot function normally in my life and still have contact with her. With therapy I recognize her happiness is not my responsibility and can cut off contact. I am wondering if this action will be detrimental to the healing I have worked so hard to achieve.
In my experience, cutting off contact is sometimes necessary, in extreme cases, particularly where cruelty and abuse are present. However, before action is taken, speak with your counselor and project out your plan (into the future) to ensure you are comfortable with your decision.